Wonder why you and your family members fight so much? 

Do you wish the fighting would stop?

Do you think that everyone else doesn't understand you?

Fighting can turn ugly in families, espcially if every member is out for themselves.  Whether it is mother and daughter, father and son, sister and brother or parents, if there is a negative impact every time, then the cycle will most likely continue.  Something may not be working.

Look at the purpose of fighting and slow down the process.  Before a fight starts, what happens?  Have you already anticipated that a fight is going to start?  If this is the case, then a fight will most likely occur every time.  Can you feel yourself slowly getting uncomfortable, or are you immediately defensive and upset?  Are you to the point where you don't care and just want to scream to release your anxiety and anger?  Many times, people don't slow down and look at what is happening to them before a fight.  If this happens, the fight might actually not occur.  Additionally, each person seems to have their own agenda.  You want everyone to see your point.  Sometimes, this just isn't possible.

If you truly want the fighting to stop, are you willing to give in once in a while?  If your answer is, "No way!" then are you willing to give up what is important to you (for example, for entact family, house, etc.) so that you can feel that you are right?  Is being right more significant than your family?  By changing how you look at your purpose of the argument and what is truly important in your life, fighting could actually decrease.  If priorities are acted on, you will put what is more important first, like fun and enjoyment.  When one person starts an argument, remind them that fighting isn't going to solve much.  Talking about it might work a little better.